Come get these....L's

You, you got what I need but you say he's just a friend
And you say he's just a friend, oh baby
You, you got what I need but you say he's just a friend
But you say he's just a friend, oh baby
You, you got what I need but you say he's just a friend
But you say he's just a friend. -Biz Markie

So, i mentioned this topic on twitter weeks ago, here's my latest reply:

Ok...let's go. Backstory time:

So, i've had great friendships with women. Strictly platonic friendships with women who have been a great support to me and i'll always love and appreciate them for it. But as soon as I get into a relationship my girlfriend will seek and try to destroy those friendships. This isn't a one time thing, isn't a one girlfriend thing, isn't even the same female friend thing.

 It's every girlfriend, every time.

explain that, sherlock.  Explain to me how I can have a female bestfriend that my girl knew about before we were together. My girl knows I talk to, she is privy to all our social media interaction. If I get a random text from her when we're together I show my girlfriend so there isn't any "hiding". And still some way, some how she hates this woman to the point I end up losing this female friend. Now i know you're thinking...you drop your friend for this jealous woman?

Not really, but kinda sorta. My former bff (best female friends) will all attest...it's not that I drop them, but my current girlfriend makes it difficult to be the friend I once was to them. They don't want me to talk to them as much. Don't want me to hang out with them and want me to do things I would usually do with my bff with them instead. I get this. I understand my attention has to focus on my girlfriend, especially a serious girlfriend. It sucks, but I never disrespect the girl I'm dating by sneaking around and maintaining friendships she (1) doesn't know about (2) is insecure about (3) is downright ridiculous about. 

To my bffs, don't think i don't defend or fight for our friendships or that it doesn't bother the fuck out of me that I have to choose sides. If y'all were dudes, it wouldn't be an issue. If y'all were dudes, you'd understand how irrational females are and would just take the "L" and not be upset with me over trying to keep peace in my relationship. But women are going to be women...so I'll have everyone mad at me.

...backstory ended. Original point initiated:

So tell me how many male friendships any of my girlfriends ended? None. Zelch. Nada. Not-a-damn-one.

How is this possible? Because women lie. Women are liars, even the good ones. All y'all lie. Lying ass liars. Ask me how many of them I've caught in inappropriate friendships? Every single one of their lying asses. Social media isn't your friends ladies. You wanna have a friendship off the books, send smoke signals. 

The women i have dated have always assumed that i was the jealous or insecure one.  I was the one who didn't want them to have male friends. My male ego was so fragile that they couldn't innocently talk to or hang out with another man..so they had to hide it.  GTFOH..

You are the jealous and insecure person in the relationship. You are the one who unfairly sabotaged and ruined my friendship that i was open and honest about. You were the one lying and hiding friendships from me. So at the end of the day when i find out about Kevin & 'nem and call you on your shit, don't pretend it's innocent. Don't pretend you were doing it because of my fragile ego. Don't pretend that a lie, is not a lie. 

If you have to lie to someone you love about something innocent...it's not innocent. 

- genius